In today’s fast pace life of digitalization it’s hard to stick at the same place to develop and live into a relationship. People have to move away from home for further studies, job responsibilities or to run a business. In such scenario the probability of long distance relationship is increasing and people are keeping constant touch with their loved ones by mobile phones, internet messengers and other text services. All these factors are contributing the increased instances of long distance relationship. But each good thing comes with some hidden problems which you should be prepared to cope with. At times it becomes hard for people to survive a long distance relationship due to certain factors like different time zones, busy schedules, losing the interest in relationship due to no physical touch and many more. In such conditions it’s important to survive a long distance relationship if you are committed to it.
Think about your Goals in Relationship
You might need to move to another state or country for study or for a new job and have to leave your present location. If you are in a relationship and planning to move away then you have to think about your current relationship. Think about the goals of your relationship and decide what you want out of it. Talk to your partner frankly and discuss the fate of your relationship. You should figure out if you want to survive the relationship at any cost and want to move together at some point of time, or your mutual intention is to have this relationship for some time may it be few months or year, or it could be a just casual relationship where you both are not serious enough and just wanted to have some fun. These are real life scenarios of relationships, based on your case you have to decide that if you are serious then you should be committed to survive your relationship and if you are not serious enough then you should just quit the relationship to avoid waste of energy and possible complications.
Define the Communication terms for Long Distance Relationship
If you both are serious about your relationship and want to sustain it then you should define term of your long distance relationship before it gets started. You should define the frequency, schedules and mode of communications. You can commit the specific time of the day and mode of communication. It could be every night after lunch you will have video chat for 30 minutes. Or at least 5 text messages per day at your convenience. You can define the schedule and commit to it. You should give enough confidence to your partner and have mutual understanding to stick to these terms of communication. This will give strength to your long distance relationship before it gets started.
Have a tentative end date for Long Distance Relationship
You are moving away from your current location for a good purpose and committed to your current relationship, this will lead into a long term relationship. Once you are committed to your current relationship then there should be enough transparency about end of the long distance relationship because you can’t live in long distance relationship forever. You have to give enough confidence to your partner about tentative end date of your long distance relationship. This will boost the confidence of your partner in your relationship and this tiny step will also avoid unexpected complications in your relationships. If due to unavoidable circumstances you have to extend your stay at the other location then you have to be transparent enough and talk about the circumstances with your partner so that he/she can understand the reasons for the extended stay.
Be Honest to Yourself
Usually if you are physically away from your partner, it happens that you may develop interest in someone else. This is a cheating and not good for your relationship and most importantly not good for your self esteem. A cheater will have always damaged self esteem. So be honest to yourself and your relationship before you get into a long distance relationship. If you are really committed to your relationship then it will require lots of patience, self motivation, dedication and encouragement to your partner. So if you are mentally prepared to get into all these then only you should commit otherwise it’s better to quit the relationship.
Be in touch
In a long distance relationship you should be in constant touch with your partner, so that you or your partner won’t feel the change in your relationship. You should make telephone calls on regular frequency, use Skype video chat, emails, text SMS and all these should be supported by regular scheduled visits where you can meet personally and rejuvenate your long distance relationship. Make sure you don’t let the long time pass without personal visits and all other modes of being in touch.
Motivate Each Other
In long distance relationship it happens that at time you start losing interest in your relationships or your mind may get diverted. Certain uncontrollable consequences may raise doubts in your mind about your partner and this can’t be avoided or handled easily as you are not personally in touch. Such situations should be foreseen in advanced and both partner need to develop an understanding and keep motivating each other and be supportive to each other to biome most important person’s in each others’ lives. This will give a boost to your long distance relationship.
When you are away from your hometown, you will have multiple responsibilities to handle like your studies, work, family responsibilities, personal problems and commitments and your long distance relationship. You have to demonstrate your management skills and handle everything in right way so that not a single relationship suffers and don’t have negative impact on other priorities of your life. You have to pay enough attention to each relationship of your life so that you can effectively keep the balance between your official, family and love relationships.
Be Together – Virtually
If you are not together but you can be stay together by doing certain things together. You can watch your favorite TV program or movie together at the same time which could be a point of discussion for you. You can listen to radio, music or do some things like cleaning home or cooking at the same time which will help you to stay closer and help you to revive your long distance relationship.
Talk about your relationship
The creative way to sustain your long distance relationship is to talk about it whenever you go. This will keep a social surrounding around you about your long distance relationship. This will not let you stay away from your partner mentally.
Exchanging gifts is the best idea to capture each others’ minds. Do you remember how you felt last time when your loved one sent you a gift? This is an amazing feeling of love and exchanging gifts will keep this feeling alive forever.
These are the tips to survive a long distance relationship. A long distance relationship comes with certain commitments and certain problems but you deal with these times gracefully then you can make this long distance relationship a success story.